THE 3 ERAS OF
What do you do when the life you built disappears overnight?
How do you keep going when the person you loved most is no longer here?
And is it possible to live a life that holds both the depth of your grief and the possibility of something more?
The 3 Eras Of Grief is a modern-day guide for those navigating the unthinkable reality of partner loss.
Grief doesn’t come with a manual, but in this book, Carolyn Gower offers something close: a roadmap through the three distinct eras of grief.
Survival: when breathing feels impossible,
Reckoning: when reality crashes in,
and Reclamation: when life begins to grow around the grief.
You won’t be told to “move on.”
You’ll be shown how to stand back up, even when your legs are shaking.
How to reckon with the hardest truths without losing yourself.
And how to reclaim a life that honours both your love and your future.
You’ll find tools, real talk, and gentle encouragement from someone who’s lived it—and now helps others live through it too.
Grief changes you.
But it doesn’t get to finish your story.
GRIEF
In 2017, Carolyn Gower’s world shattered when her husband Tony died of prostate cancer at just 53. Suddenly widowed and navigating unimaginable grief, she quickly discovered what so many grieving people do: that society is deeply uncomfortable with grief, and often completely unequipped to support it.
Rather than stay silent, Carolyn chose to speak up.
Today, she’s a grief coach, educator, speaker, author, and podcaster based in Ballarat, Australia. A self-proclaimed “grief nerd,” she now supports other widowed people through coaching, books, public speaking, and social media - and works to educate the non-grieving world on what true grief support really looks like.
In 2023, Carolyn faced yet another life-altering experience when she survived Necrotising Fasciitis, a rare and deadly flesh-eating bacteria. After a coma, sepsis, and more than fifteen surgeries, she emerged with an even deeper commitment to reclaiming life, and helping others find their way through what grief can never take away.
